You need to look at what needs to be done, who can do it best and who can do it now? So if the bin has not been taken out and it’s your husband’s duty, it’s been 2 days and the kitchen stinks. Rather than walk past and in your mind abuse and or vocally complain about the piled up trash. Think about reasons why your husband might not have taken the bin out. Maybe he’s busy? Tired? Or literally just forgot? Then ask yourself if it is something you are able to do? And then are you available to do it? If so, Just Do It!
It has been a while since I had a girly night with one of my girls! After an evening of fun, prayer and a long sermon by H2, I went home with SOG!
We chatted about everything! Particularly a book she is currently reading “The Purpose of Love and Marriage by Myles Munroe” http://www.amazon.com/The-Purpose-Power-Love-Marriage/dp/0768422515 .
I have not read it yet, just ordered my copy but the koko of the oro is basically that people have got the whole idea of love and submission upside down. While the defined roles of wives and husbands are good and keep structure in place, they ought not to be so rigid.
I must say though from observation, it’s usually the men who walk past dirty bathrooms, dirty dishes in the kitchen sink, crying babies that need changing and then complain very vocally about the unperformed chores. The love response is: Just Do It!
Then it goes on to submission and says submission is earned and not invoked! It is easier to submit to someone who shows total complete and foolish love. When you have a husband that is responsible, spiritually sound, loves you so much and puts you above himself, it is much much easier to submit to such a husband than one who just demands it because ‘it is how it should be’. True love does not demand harsh submission. So for example, saying no to your wife’s request to go and visit her family in the village (nollywood version) just because you can is totally uncool!
SOG and I concluded that there is loving submission and invoked submission. More points to ponder after I have read the book.
Anyhoo, we went to bed at about 4.30. SOG got up at 10am, went to get some stuff for breakfast, I woke up at 11am (*covers face*) and then we made breakfast!
Breakfast Muffin (toasted)
Sausages – Griiled
Baked beans – heated in a saucepan
Scrambled Eggs with tuna, peppers and onions – break your eggs in a bowl, add tuna chunks, thyme, a pinch of salt, pinch of Maggi and then whisk, fry onions and chopped scotch bonnet pepper in a saucepan, once you can smell the onions, pour the egg mix in the saucepan and stir with a wooden spoon, lifting and folding it over from the bottom of the pan. The night before, I begged V2 to make me her famous breakfast and she refused. Probably pay back for not feeding H2 when she was away lol. So in your face V2 :p!
Breakfast was yummy!! We munched away and sighed with joy whilst watching Diary of a mad black woman (SOG’s hundredth time, lol) and of course gisted throughout the movie!